Just like ordinary love, in the process of choosing lovers from time to time, we may not be together for various reasons. When we are old and love is not picky, we will find that what we miss and lose are so beautiful. Only then will you find that no one will wait for you in the same place.
Bear is my friend's sister. Because she and Sister Bear are good friends, I naturally gave her this nickname. Although Little Bear is 40 years old, she can still play with us like a little girl.
It's hard to talk about the reason, because Little Bear just celebrated his 40th birthday this year. 40 years old, she is still single.
On my birthday, I had a blind date with a divorced man who was two years older than her and had children. She said with self-mockery that people who used to date each other were waiting for her to choose. Even divorced men used to choose for themselves. When they get old, only divorced old people and honest people can choose. This is the saddest thing in her life.
Bear's doubts are actually the plight of a large part of the leftover women. According to the conditions of bear when he was young, it is easy to find a partner. At the age of 28, she had a date for four years. After she got it back, her mother asked the object's family status again and gave the bear a choice. If she marries this man, she won't be rich for the rest of her life. This person is not a self-motivated person. He is easy to be satisfied and muddle along, five or six thousand a month, and so is she when she is old. If you don't marry this person, it will be risky to find another one. Maybe you can't find a man who likes bears as much as he does.
Xiong emphasized the past. After all, after so many years of feelings, she couldn't bear to leave him like this, but the thought of married life made her feel unbearable at first sight. At this time, the party between college roommates made her change her mind. A roommate who is not as good as Xiong in all aspects of study is better than her. She marries her husband to do business, and when she is engaged, the man's family gives her roommate a car to walk instead of walking. Roommates' daily routine is to go to the gym and beauty salon to support themselves. They don't have to worry about their livelihood. People look many years younger than them. If you don't know the comparison, the comparison will be shocking. Seeing her roommate's experience, she made up her mind to wait for someone better to present it.
In the ten years after this relationship, Bear met countless men who were kind to her. They are honest, boring, meaningless, witty, playboy, too greasy, with good family conditions, and they are not compassionate and serious enough for her. Every blind date, the other party has a center for her to find fault.
It wasn't until the last few blind dates that she discovered that unconsciously she had passed the age of picking on others at will. The objects introduced to her by others were all men she had disdained to think about before, including those who were honest to the bone. What's more, divorced men with children were killed without thinking before.
As usual, she is forty years old, and she thinks that if she can't get married again, I'm afraid even divorced men and honest people will not choose me in my life! A woman's best years are in the decade from the age of 20 to 30. Women who are unmarried after the age of 30 are in a precarious situation, especially from the blind date market. There is really not much time left for older women.
My aunt, who has never been married in her life, said that she never wanted to marry in her life, but the truth is that she was too picky when she was young. With my education, she needs to find a man with a high education and a good family. She has never considered her personality and family, so she is arrogant. The man she likes doesn't want to marry her, and the man she likes doesn't want to marry her. One to two, when she was old, she found that her choice range was as long as she didn't make progress all her life. Even at this time, she doesn't want to get married casually, which leads to the usual lifelong unmarried.
My aunt earned face for half her life, but she was criticized behind her back just because she was unmarried and had no children. There are many unmarried women in their forties. It's not that they don't want to get married, but over the years, they have found that there are fewer and fewer people to choose from, and the range of choices is getting smaller and smaller, so it is more and more difficult to make up their minds. I've been picky all my life, and I can't make do with it in the end.
Many women are like this. Only when they become leftover women do they discover how powerless the evil thoughts from this world and the loneliness at night are. When there is only regret and powerlessness, I am more and more disgusted with why I didn't grasp happiness in those years. Love needs opportunities and we need to fight for them. Too cautious and picky, it is often difficult to get real happiness. Love needs passion. If you can't get out of that step, you will be trapped forever. May all women have a good home, and may all women of marriageable age seize happiness, and don't wait for the rest to regret that they have no choice.