Responsibility is a kind of ability, not a slogan, but a product of life experience. Parents are duty-bound and have a direct impact. Next, I sorted out how parents use their influence and the growth of their children. The article is for your reference only!
How do parents use their influence to accompany their children to grow up? 1 No parents in any era need to learn as much as they do today. The essence of educating children is to change themselves. Only by changing yourself can we grow up with our children consciously and voluntarily. Therefore, only when parents study hard can children make progress every day.
First, the ideal is the soul of growth.
Only when there is a dream can there be an ideal, and there will be a life course of striving for the ideal. A person without a dream, his night is dark and dangerous, no matter how hard he tries, it is difficult to find his sense of accomplishment and life value. How can children pursue their own ideals? The key is to ignite the ideal with the ideal and stimulate the passion with the passion. If children want to have ideals, parents must first pursue them. Parents should not only be disseminators of knowledge, but also leaders of children's spiritual growth.
Parents should try their best to know what their children are interested in, often discuss with them, and encourage them to make continuous progress and exploration. Parents should tell their children more stories about scientists and role models in the early stage of their children's growth, and sow the seeds of dreams in their hearts; Parents should also guide their children to develop their specialties through their intelligence types, so as to nurture the seeds of their dreams.
Second, reading is the foundation of growth.
A person's spiritual development history is his reading history, and his spiritual height depends on his reading height. Excellent parents should not only study by themselves, but also strive to create a "scholarly family" and create a good reading atmosphere for their children. Sun Yunxiao, chief expert of family education in China Youth Research Center, believes that for teenagers, forming the habit of reading is equivalent to installing an engine of growth in their hearts, and forming the habit of reading will make them feel lonely all their lives. If they can't develop the habit of reading, they will be at a loss all their lives.
To develop reading habits from kindergarten to primary school, the first thing is to let children see that their parents are often studying; Second, we should often take our children to bookstores or libraries; The third is that parents should insist on reading to their children before going to bed; The fourth is to choose a fixed reading time or position for children to form a conditioned reflex; Fifth, it is suggested that when the whole family goes out to travel, they should arrange explanations for their children, deepen their impressions by asking for materials and explanations, and gain a sense of accomplishment.
Third, habit is the foundation of growth.
Habits are first formed at home. Whether learning to speak, walk, brush teeth, read books or manage time, they are all acquired through imitation and learning. However, in real life, some parents have different words and deeds. While asking children to study hard and make continuous progress, they should be content with the status quo and not make progress ... Parents should pay special attention to setting an example in front of their children and set an example for them everywhere.
Fourth, dedication is the way to grow.
Dedication is an attitude and an ability. Dedication is not only reflected in the workplace, but also in all aspects of daily life. It is a compulsory course for parents to set an example for their children with their professional qualities. In the process of children's growth, the professional attitude and concept conveyed by parents have a vital impact on their future career choices.
Children see their parents' enthusiasm and passion for their careers, and also observe their parents' enterprising spirit and self-motivation. Under the influence of this family environment, they will gradually have yearning and yearning feelings for their careers.
Fifth, family is the source of growth.
Family style is the most stable moral concept of a family, and family style is the key symbol to measure the quality of family education. Parents are the first teachers of the children. What do parents rely on to educate their children? We should not look at academic qualifications, income and position, but at the quality of education, which includes educational ideas, educational methods and educational ability. Parents and children are completely interactive in the family. Parents and children study together, exercise together, get close to nature together and visit museums together.
The growth of parents will drive the growth of children, and the growth of children will also promote the growth of parents. If parents can carefully sort out their children's education problems, they can review and resolve the problems arising from their own growth and realize the secondary development of spiritual life.
Are there any rules on how parents can use their influence and their children's freedom to grow up? What is the role of parents in the process of children learning to be responsible for themselves? Responsibility is a kind of ability, not a slogan, but a product of life experience. Parents are duty-bound and have a direct impact.
The direct influence is based on the understanding and interaction with children, with the purpose of calming children's emotions, providing ideas and encouraging actions.
Explain whether this is good or bad.
Xiaoming doesn't pay much attention to cleaning. In the past few days, he has been reporting the news of HINI on TV. Some people have died and some schools have been closed. He was worried and asked his mother, Will I be infected? Will I die? Children care about social phenomena and their own health, which is worthy of parents' affirmation. Mother accompanied him to collect information, understand the route of HINI infection, and found that keeping clean and washing hands often is an important way to protect himself. After understanding the benefits to himself, Xiaoming is willing to practice: wash his hands after going home, and ask his mother to remind him before eating: wash his hands! So as not to lose your health!
Encourage children to take a step forward.
The teacher suggested that the third grade students play table tennis more, which would help to improve the problem of insufficient attention. His mother also hopes that he can exercise more, but in the past experience, as long as he heard his mother call him to participate in activities, he immediately refused, and his mother didn't know how to respond. This summer, his mother decided to encourage him to try. He said to boon boon: You envy your friend for playing table tennis very well. Do you want to be as good as him and find him PK after school? His mother promised him to try to go for a day to see if he liked the teachers and the environment there. If he doesn't want to go, his mother won't force him. Yes, yes, I have been there once and said that the teachers there are very good, but I don't know any friends. My mother asked, do you want to go? Yes, yes, I decided to go to the first phase for five days, and then I attended it for a month.
Listen to children's ideas and agree with good opinions.
In fifth grade, Xiao Pei often asked his mother to help him make decisions. For example, in the summer vacation, he wants to read three books and write his own thoughts. My mother helped me find books, and she let him handle his own affairs. Xiao Pei always looks wronged and says you don't love me. Mother's desire for education was interpreted as indifference, but her daughter was more dependent, so her mother decided to change her attitude. During the summer vacation, a classmate wanted to give a birthday present. Xiao Pei asked his mother: What do you suggest I give? Mom asked: What's your budget? What do your classmates like? Let's go to the bookstore, maybe you will be inspired. When choosing a gift, I asked Xiao Pei: Is this good? Which is better? Mother frankly shared her feelings: I think this color is very beautiful, that one is very practical and so on. Later, Xiao Pei chose a chess sticker with many cute little patterns on it. Mother also found that independence is a process, and her companionship and sharing are catalysts to help her daughter understand herself.
Put forward rules for children to follow.
True freedom is that after taking responsibility, parents can ask their children to obey the rules if their behavior endangers the safety or rights of others. Beibei in the fourth grade wants to buy a powerful baby gun with her pocket money, which can shoot through paper. He was very excited. His mother was worried that she would shoot someone, but he said I would be responsible for what happened. Her mother firmly told him that if something that can shoot through paper hits people, people will be very painful. This is not a pupil's toy. You like shooting. We can take part in paintball shooting, which is safer and more exciting. In addition, Beibei and her younger brother love to quarrel, play together, grab toys and TV. Every time they complain, they will take turns to go into battle, and suddenly they quarrel again. My mother can't help but explode. Later, he said to the two brothers: If you can't play together quietly for 20 minutes, please separate, one will watch TV in the living room, and the other will go back to the room to play together when possible. Brothers are temporarily isolated, experience the taste of one person and miss the fun of companionship.
Learn to take care of your body.
Xiao Xiang, a sophomore, often catches a cold. Every time she catches a cold, she is so listless that she doesn't want to eat anything. Sometimes she will let her mother eat fried chicken or potato chips. Her mother always followed him before, because it was better to eat than not to eat, and she couldn't bear to see him disappointed. But as the illness dragged on, her mother gradually felt inappropriate. When I came to OK camp this year, Xiaoxiang caught a cold and brought a pack of fried biscuits. With the help of the teacher, mother said to Xiaoxiang: When you are sick, your body needs rest, and fried food will make your stomach worse. Under the witness of the teacher, my mother will take care of the package of snacks and drink more water these days. I can eat it as soon as I am well. Xiaoxiang was disappointed, of course, but after his mother and teacher confirmed that he would take good care of his health and was a big boy, he gradually let go. We grew up from the traditional authoritative education, but we are eager to open up a garden of democratic education in our family. This ambition is gratifying. For example, children are not groping alone. In Aijia, where parents are involved, family education is always accompanied by friends.